In the summer of 2020, M.M.’s Brand Editor, Caitlin Abber, packed up her small menagerie—including her husband, her then-6-month-old daughter, two senior cats, and a wiley rat terrier—and moved from Brooklyn, New York to the small city of New Haven, Connecticut. The move was somewhat sudden and certainly a result of the pandemic, but, consistent with her attitude about most things, Caitlin promised herself that she’d make the best of it.
So she traded the subway for floorspace, her favorite burger for New Haven’s famous pizza (she’s a BAR person), an elevator for a backyard, and weekends spent wandering around the city for trips to Trader Joe’s and the playground. But there is one thing she refused to give up: throwing epic parties (even if her daughter—who is now 21 months—is the only guest invited).
“My husband and I threw a ton of parties before we had a baby,” she explains. “Birthdays, New Year’s Eve, whenever Beyoncé released a new song…Of course, our parties in Connecticut aren’t the same, but in some ways, I think they might be better.”
With her daughter in the mix, Caitlin’s new strategy is making sure to anticipate the unexpected and allowing for extra chaos. ”When you have children, you have to be okay with a little mess, a lot of noise, and several outfit changes. You have to let go of control, because if you spend all night trying to get your kids to sit down or eat food they don’t like, no one is going to have fun. Perfect is the enemy of the good when it comes to most things in life, especially hosting.”