To be sure, with all the options in front of us, we may still want the more traditional milestones, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But we should be careful not to be deceived into thinking that achieving these milestones will transform us into an almost century-old definition of a fully-actualized adult. “We keep looking to arrive somewhere,” said Kayleen. “We just want to be somewhere and exhale and be like, ‘Oh, I made it. I figured out my 30s, and I’m good now.’ But [we’re] not done. There are so many things [we] still have to figure out.”
The Instagram poll revealed something else worth noting. When asked if they had any regrets about their 30s, many women responded by saying that they wished they had more fun, were less anxious, and cared a little less about growing up. For me, that’s what the crop top was about. Wearing it felt freeing because, despite having checked off so many of the arbitrary boxes of adulthood, I’m still not there yet, and I don’t know if I want to be. What I do know is, that day, in the 80-degree Fort Lauderdale sun, I was just a thirty-something woman in a half-shirt drinking a margarita, and I felt really great.